Just not ready

I wasn’t one of those people who was desperate to have children. I didn’t dream of my wedding day or have it all planned out. It took me a long time to get with the program but finally I met Mr right and settled down. We had our first daughter in 2007 and it is such a cliche but it was love at first sight! Since then she’s had us on an emotional roller coaster and life is a crazy adventure! This weeks latest challenge is I have to register her for school! How can she be going to school already? It doesn’t seem two minutes since I was breast feeding and changing diapers with alarming frequency! But I seem to have suddenly got a little lady! A very vibrant opinionated little lady! So, I’ve been to the school and now I’m freaking out! The forms were so comprehensive, can she? Will she? Does she? There I was thinking she was pretty advanced but apparently not! It asked if she can read her own name? can she write any numbers? Can she do her own buttons and zippers? She’s only three! I don’t know what I expected, but I guess a lot less pressure at this age! Are kids not allowed to be kids? Are we already putting them in to categories? Labels? It suggested enrolling her in a pre-school. We do go to a playgroup, she does socialize with other kids and I’m truly happy with her development, although she is unruly at times! I don’t feel the need to have a 3 year old in a structured learning environment. September will come soon enough as far as I’m concerned, my baby is already growing too quickly. I’m ok if we take things one step at a time! I didn’t expect to be emotional about school, but that’s just one more surprise! My baby is going to school this year, ready or not..


About yorkshiremummy

Born and Raised in Yorkshire, Now at Large in North America. Working Wife and Mum of 2. Occasionally sarcastic, Often inappropriate, but always real! Having snorkeled with sharks in the Maldives, ridden an Elephant in Sri Lanka, swum in an underground river in Mexico and played with Lion cubs in South Africa, currently enjoying the crazy adventure of motherhood!
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7 Responses to Just not ready

  1. Kate says:

    Wow. That’s a lot to be asking. Mine were assessed when they started school but none of them are assessed in the way of “they should be doing this”, just to discover the things they could and couldn’t do. Mine have learnt to dress themselves – Monkey has been great with buttons since quite young when I showed him what to do, whereas Missy Woo is great with zips. They’re just different children.

    I very much doubt they will be expecting her to do all those things at 3 – but some children will be able to do that just because they can. The fact that she can’t won’t put her behind, she’s just different and by asking, they will know what to teach her.

    Can’t deny it’s a bit odd tho.

    Don’t worry about putting her in pre-school if it’s not for you. As you say, it’s very young to be starting anyway. Missy Woo started school full time 10 weeks after her 4th birthday but my, was she ready for it. This was because she had seen her brother go a year ahead and she wanted to be like him! I’m sure there were lots of other kids that weren’t – and that was no reflection at all on anyone’s parenting. Kids just develop at different rates.

    • Hey Kate,
      Thanks for the comments. The truth is, she can actually do most things. She can do buttons and zips, she can write 2 numbers and she can spell 3 words or so. I think I over reacted and it’s exactly what you said, they were assessing where she’s at to see what help she needs. I didn’t realize and thought she needed to be able to do it all before she got there! Can you tell I’m a worrier?? Phew

  2. Him Up North says:

    Crikey, it’s like an entrance exam for kindergarten! One could argue we start our children on institutionalised education far too early in the UK and by the sounds of it in Canada too.

    I’m sure she’ll love it when she’s there but once they start school it is AMAZING how fast it goes by. I’m quite the Job’s comforter, aren’t I? LOL

  3. Oh goodness now I’m worried and DD’s only eighteenth months! I totally agree that kids should be allowed to be kids for as long as possible. There is far too much pressure on children to grow up quickly these days, from the education system right down to the toys that are advertised at them . Ok, soapbox removed.

  4. SisterSister says:

    My Son is only months behind your DD and due to UK rules for school entry he wont go until a year after your DD. He cannot use buttons. Can only use a zip if it has already been attached. Can only write one thing “b” and can only recognise his own name.
    So do not worry, or panic, when they are 16 they will both be able to do thier laces – hopefully lol

  5. JallieDaddy says:

    Well it’s a big step, a big change: I can totally understand your feeling emotional about it! This is a couple of years away for me, as I’m such a young thing 😉

    I can give you the benefit of my experience here though. I actually remember my school enrolment interview. I sat in a strange room with funny old man as he talked to my Mum & Dad. I didn’t know what they were on about & I wasn’t interested. I think I spent the entire time looking out of the window with one eye closed, then swapped to the other, then back to the first, etc. etc. I was fascinated by how what I saw moved; I’m not sure I’d noticed that before.

    So there you go: from a child’s perspective 🙂

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