I never thought that I’d be still dating when I’m married with two children, but dating I am. People often ask me what the hardest thing is about moving to another Country. That’s an easy one, meeting girlfriends as an adult is very hard for me. Most people have already established their circle of friends through school and college. I liken meeting girlfriends to the dating scene! I’ve met people on line through Facebook, Twitter and Blogging and established some positive cyber friendships that are still in their honeymoon phase! I’ve been to several playgroups where you get to speed date, and try to make a connection with other women in a large group, while your perfectly well behaved troop, perform to the best of their ability. I was invited to one play date. I was pretty nervous, DD had started to act out and I wasn’t sure how it would go. Like any first date you try to be on your best behavior while still maintaining some integrity of the real you! It all seemed to be going well until one of mine made one of theirs cry, and ‘shared’ their snacks. needless to say it didn’t take long for me to realize she just wasn’t that into me!
This week I did have the pleasure of meeting someone and on first impression, we seem compatible. We went for coffee, or hot chocolate to be precise and the conversation seemed to flow with ease. No awkward silence, no competition and it all appeared genuine. Im pretty sure I didn’t outstay my welcome and so I now have to wait and see if there will be a second date..
Are the rules for meeting Girlfriends the same as meeting Men? Who is supposed to call who? Are you supposed to wait a certain amount of time before contacting them so you don’t look too keen? If you arranged this first get together do you wait for them to arrange the next one?
The truth of the matter is I’m too old and too ugly for all these politics. I don’t believe in game playing, so I will take the lead, thank them for the really enjoyable time and suggest a second date! Wish me luck..