I never thought that I’d be still dating when I’m married with two children, but dating I am. People often ask me what the hardest thing is about moving to another Country. That’s an easy one, meeting girlfriends as an adult is very hard for me. Most people have already established their circle of friends through school and college. I liken meeting girlfriends to the dating scene! I’ve met people on line through Facebook, Twitter and Blogging and established some positive cyber friendships that are still in their honeymoon phase! I’ve been to several playgroups where you get to speed date, and try to make a connection with other women in a large group, while your perfectly well behaved troop, perform to the best of their ability. I was invited to one play date. I was pretty nervous, DD had started to act out and I wasn’t sure how it would go. Like any first date you try to be on your best behavior while still maintaining some integrity of the real you! It all seemed to be going well until one of mine made one of theirs cry, and ‘shared’ their snacks. needless to say it didn’t take long for me to realize she just wasn’t that into me!
This week I did have the pleasure of meeting someone and on first impression, we seem compatible. We went for coffee, or hot chocolate to be precise and the conversation seemed to flow with ease. No awkward silence, no competition and it all appeared genuine. Im pretty sure I didn’t outstay my welcome and so I now have to wait and see if there will be a second date..
Are the rules for meeting Girlfriends the same as meeting Men? Who is supposed to call who? Are you supposed to wait a certain amount of time before contacting them so you don’t look too keen? If you arranged this first get together do you wait for them to arrange the next one?
The truth of the matter is I’m too old and too ugly for all these politics. I don’t believe in game playing, so I will take the lead, thank them for the really enjoyable time and suggest a second date! Wish me luck..
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Yeah you go for it. You’ll still be able to tell if she’s not keen. Good luck. x
Thanks for the comment! Date number 2 is penciled in lol
What an interesting analogy! Sometimes you have to go out and grab what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you. Take the initiative. What’s the worst that can happen?
I know what you mean about likening it to dating, but who has the time or energy to gameplay these days?! If a potential friend isn’t just as keen to see you again, then why bother further, but I think that you should go with your gut feeling that you both liked each other and arrange another date…mmm….hot chocolate! Good luck x (found you via BMB)
Thanks Kerry š
Firstly: too told & too ugly? Pah! I’ve seen your photo y’know! š
That really is a great way of looking at it. It’s not easy making new friends, & it really is very similar to dating.
I’m actually in a similar position. I’ve moved cities 4x since I’ve been in the U.K., losing touch with friends each time.
In the last move I’d recently been made redundant & am now mostly a SAHD so am quite isolated.
That actually really helps me a lot you know – thanks š
Trouble is, if I enter the ‘male dating scene’ here I may end up with friends who are little bit closer than I was expecting!
Awww that has made my day, about my photo x
Have you seen I love you man?
Is that the Seth Brogan film? I’ll look it up. The only film I’ve watched AJ is Transformers from off the telly. It was v good tho. That one’s on my list, thanks š
Another great post and one I can relate to. I have very few close friends as have never lived in one place long enough. Military upbringing meant always leaving friends behind. About to startdifferent groups and classes with twins and will be looking for potential friends for them and me. Thinking of this post will make me smile as I go x