Nips and tucks

As a continuance from the post yesterday featured on The Blog up North, I am interested to discuss the decision of nips and tucks.

I was informed at a recent playgroup, that perhaps I should pierce Bub’s ears as people keep thinking she’s a Boy. (She’s an 8 month Girl by the way). Apparently this would rectify the situation! Said issue, was a contributing factor in their decision to pierce their own babies ears. Firstly let me say that I’m a big believer in choice, no judgment here. However, for me personally, I’m not about to have a hole placed in my Daughter’s anatomy for purely aesthetic purposes. When and if she chooses to do that later I will certainly support her. (and yes, I do have my own pierced). I think it should be her choice and not mine. Am I crazy?

That got me thinking.. when I was pregnant, prior to learning the gender of the Baby. Hubby and I discussed everything from breastfeeding, to discipline. One controversial subject that came up was circumcision.. Yes I said it! While I appreciate this is my first real blog, I figured go big or go home..

In North America it appears to be common practice to lop off a part of baby boy’s anatomy. As a trained Nurse, I’ve certainly seen my share of circumcisions and for medical reasons I fully support it. But I cannot endorse decisions, based on ‘so he doesn’t look different from Daddy’ or so it’s easier to clean” (yep I know). As this was a big discussion for us I did research it thoroughly, perhaps my views were antiquated or passé?

While studying this, I found a lot of information. Did you know that it is probably the oldest medical procedure still performed? That the most widely known historical record of the practice is in the old testament? Anyway the bottom line is that, circumcision DOES reduce the risk of infection, but so does CAREFUL CLEANING. In the end it was not a decision I had to make as we had 2 girls. What’s your views on that?

In general we are faced with daily decisions for our children based on looks. Does how we choose to dress them in the Morning have a real bearing on who they will be later in life? What happens if they don’t have the right trainers, have freckles, wear glasses? At what age do you let your child start wearing makeup? When would you let your child colour their hair? Why is image so important? We seem to be barraged from every angle on how the perfect person, irrelevant of age should look. In North America there are signs and ad’s everywhere for everything from Acne treatments, Rhinoplasty and Liposuction. When are we going to teach self confidence and the fact that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes? One of my girls has a birth mark on her eye lid, the other has a second toe that is slightly longer than the average. I for one am delighted that they don’t fit into a stereotypical little box of beauty and truly believe that what  makes us different does indeed make us interesting. I don’t need to do any nips or tucks or to pierce my Daughter’s ears to believe that she looks like the beautful girl that she is. Your thoughts?


About yorkshiremummy

Born and Raised in Yorkshire, Now at Large in North America. Working Wife and Mum of 2. Occasionally sarcastic, Often inappropriate, but always real! Having snorkeled with sharks in the Maldives, ridden an Elephant in Sri Lanka, swum in an underground river in Mexico and played with Lion cubs in South Africa, currently enjoying the crazy adventure of motherhood!
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10 Responses to Nips and tucks

  1. Jen says:

    I wouldn’t pierce a childs ears just because a few people thought she was a boy. Uh, all babies are kind of hard to tell genderwise at times. That is part of being a baby imo. Jen

  2. greenie01 says:

    Interesting post. One of my daughters second toes are considerably longer than her big toes. She’s also struggled for years with the fact that she is very lacking in the boob dept. She’s now accepted that this is not the end of the world. She’s always been beautiful in my eyes.

  3. Gone Bananas says:

    I’m with you on the ear piercing! It’s pretty common over here in the US to pierce a babies ears, but I couldn’t do it! Even now that my daughter is 8 I’m having a struggle with it and she’s desperate to have it done! lol I suppose I will eventually sucumb to her, but for now I’d like to put it off as long as I can.
    As for circumcission (hope I spelled that right?), I’m glad we had a girl as hubby and I disagree on this topic! I say no, he says yes, but his reason is for the one you mentioned above “so he looks the same as daddy!” I could recieve a back lash for saying this, but I feel it’s a tad barbaric. *ducks*
    Anyhoo, that’s my opinion! Great blog! x

  4. Mandi says:

    Wow, that’s quite some debut to the Blogosphere! Definitely some food for thought there.

    I have to say that I am 100% behind you on the pierced ears for baby girls matter. I always found it a bit weird to see children so young with holes in their ears – fine once they decide it’s what they want, but at 8 months? No, sirree!

    As for circumcision, oh boy am I glad this wasn’t an issue we had to face. In some places, especially the States for some reason I’ve never been able to work out, it seems that a man is considered “odd” if he has a Cavalier instead of a Rounhead down there (I think there was even an episode of ‘Sex and the City’ on the subject). Fortunately for me, it is the norm in Greece to leave such things as nature intended – unless there is a problem of course. But on the whole, the design seems to work pretty well, so why fix what ain’t broke.

    I’m sure my 14-year-old son would be relieved to hear I feel that way.

    (By the way, have you given any more thought to my suggestion that I add a feed and link to your blog from – if could drive a little more traffic to your blog and encourage more readers. Give it some thought and let me know if you’re interested.)

    Looking forward to more words of wisdom and food for thought from you soon.


    • Thanks Mandi. I’ll take a look Tomorrow when I have a bit more time.
      Re: circumcision, I was told they often do it the day after birth as the baby is still traumatized from the journey and won’t really notice!!
      I’m pretty sure, they’d notice!

  5. Him Up North says:

    Okay this just makes me wince. What have I unleashed…

    I can’t see other comments so apologies if I’m repeating what’s already been said. I think people who make appearance-altering decisions of their own are perfectly within their right to do so. Yes the reasons may be facile and shallow, but each to their own. Those who impress their own tastes on their children are beyond contempt and in my view they don’t see their offspring as individuals but merely adjuncts of themselves.

    Rant off. 🙂

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